By: Edward Ball
As parents you are in charge of your Children’s development, but don’t worry. If you don’t get it right or close to right as you possibly can you will have a second and third chance at the Child development process.
If your child development process creates an adult that is dependent on you for most aspect of life you will have to raise them again. Your adult child will be a “can’t get right” adult. That is, they won’t be able to do a thing right; can’t keep a job, can’t keep a place to stay, can’t keep a car, can’t keep a healthy relationship etc., etc.
This is where you get your second chance. The first step is to move them back home. Next, let them use your second car. Then, give them an allowance and finally, give them advice about relationships and life. Before you know it they will be up and running. New job, a car of their own, a small apartment, and a baby on the way.
Please WAIT Before you get too excited and proud and telling all the people you have been complaining to about your child crashing and burning your empty nest because……
The next thing you know it all comes crumbling down. Your grown ass offspring, living in his/her second childhood does the following:
- Gets fired
- Gets his car towed and can’t afford to get it out
- Doesn’t pay his rent
- Pisses off his crazy baby momma/daddy to be
You being at your wits end realizing what everyone already knows: your adult child can’t get right, you refuse to move him back home and help him out.
However, your third chance at child development presents itself. Your child can’t get right which means he/she can’t take care of his/herself. As a result you have to step in and start raising your grand baby.
Effective development is important at all stages of life. If you don’t develop your child properly you will be stuck raising kids all your life. Perpetual child rearing and child development will cut into your personal development time. Get it close to right the first time and you will have time to do all the developmental things you want to do in your life.